It is:
http://www.oprah.com/article/oprahshow/20090925-tows-mackenzie-chynna-phillips

Tyra,
This is just my 2 cents, so please take it for what is it worth. As a friend, I would suggest not responding to these types of messages for a number of reasons.

First of all, it is one thing to respond to intellectual inquiries and comments regarding the book. It is entirely another to take time and energy defending accusations from those who are spewing venom in unconstructive ways.

The second reason for not responding to a message like this is because you should spend your energy continuing to be productive. Writing this book is going to help others who are not as brave as you are to deal with their childhood abuse. You want to remain focused on your real purpose and not allow people to throw obstacles in your way.

Finally, when it comes to family members, you have to know that Psychology 101 teaches that the victim’s family (some of which were obviously also victims of abuse as indicated by your niece when she says “..all of her abuse that she “went thru” there really what her sisters went thru not her…”) will go through denial, rage, guilt, and a host of other feelings and emotions. It is an attempt to silence the one who has revealed “the secret”. These are natural reactions and abuse of any kind is a hard one to admit having been a part of – whether as victim, victimizer, or silence enabler. Some of my colleagues and sorority sisters are clinical psychologists, and I can have them take a look at this writing as well, to give you more feedback about this.

Clearly the readers of this blog know that if the writer of that post is a niece, she wasn’t born during the time of your childhood experiences, thus it is obvious she is speaking from what she has heard others say who grew up with you at that time. Therefore, in actuality, your niece may be acting as an advocate for your sisters by revealing that they, too, experienced the same abuse. It appears that from what your niece wrote that she might feel that your writing and selling of this book is acknowledging your own abuse without giving fair credence to the abuse that your siblings also suffered.

I’m just trying to encourage you to look more deeply at this writing – past the curse words and accusations, to what most people will see is really being said here, and try to think compassionately about those natural feelings and responses that are typical of families who have endured abuse.

For anyone else reading this post that wants more information on this topic, I have included two websites. Please do not skip the intro on the HAVOCA site. It is a British website, but the information is available for anyone who wants to have a better understanding of adult victims of child abuse. I have also included a link of a clip from the “Oprah Show” episode with MacKenzie Phillips, which talks about how her family reacted when she came out with her book about the abuse she endured titled “High On Arrival.”

Help for Adult Victims of Child Abuse
http://www.havoca.org

God bless, Tyra. I admire your courage and transparency.