JoeyPinkney.com Exclusive Interview
5 Minutes, 5 Questions With…
Tonja Ayers, author of Cheaters: The Who, What, When, Where & Why of Cheating
Victims of infidelity often become overwhelmed with trying to figure out why their mate has been disloyal. Victims often become obsessed with attempting to find an answer when there could be several answers.
Many others are consumed with how and when their mate could have cheated. The book Cheaters addresses these concerns.
Joey Pinkney: Where did you get the inspiration to write Cheaters: The Who, What, When, Where & Why of Cheating?
Tonja Ayers: I’ve owned a shoe store in Detroit, Michigan, for many years. My books evolve from conversations and discussions I have held with my customers. Infidelity is one of the most popular topics.
JP: What sets Cheaters: The Who, What, When, Where & Why of Cheating apart from other books in the same genre?
TA: My book is set apart from others because I am a realist. You CAN NOT make another person cheat. People cheat because they want to.
I have read other books on the topic where the woman is faulted for not keeping her appearance up or the man is at fault for not paying attention to his wife. I understand that those could be issues that need to be addressed. However, they do not give a person in a committed relationship a free pass to go out and cheat.
JP: As an author, what are the keys to your success that led to Cheaters: The Who, What, When, Where & Why of Cheating getting out to the public?
TA: One, I am approachable. For some reason, people feel comfortable with discussing their personal issues with me. Complete strangers will come into my store and tell me their life stories. With that said, I have been given permission to utilize their stories to help others who may be going through a similar situation.
Two, my businesses have created a platform and are the foundations for everything that I do. My customers support my work.
JP: As an author, what is your writing process? How long did it take you to start and finish Cheaters: The Who, What, When, Where & Why of Cheating?
TA: As of yet, my last four books have been handbooks so they are not 300 page novels. They are short and to the point. Therefore, it does not take me long to write, especially when some type of occurrence has motivated me to do so. It usually takes me no longer than a month to complete a book.
JP: What’s next for Tonja Ayers?
TA: I am working on my first novel, and I have been approached regarding doing a play and a short film based on my first book, A Ho Needs 2 Stay in a Ho’s Place.