For Tanya White: Some people are addicted to drama-filled relationships, and they don’t even know they are. Does your book address how to recognize if a person is co-dependent to toxic relationships?
Tanya White: Yes. In my book Relationship Reruns, I address the 20 keys to finding “R-E-S-T” from toxic relationship messes such both parties showing respect, encouragement, steadfastness and trustworthiness. For an explanation of the other 16 keys, read Episode 9 of Relationship Reruns.
For Dedan Tolbert: What topic would you say people in relationships have the hardest time discussing: money or sex?
Dedan Tolbert: Both topics have the potential to be the source of a great deal of conflict. It doesn’t have to be this way though. The foundation of all relationships needs to be communication and honesty. If you have these two things, you will rarely “argue” about anything. Money and Sex can be topics that two people can disagree about because of their sensitive nature. If you communicate effectively, they shouldn’t be a problem.
Women need to remember that men have sensitive egos about money as well as sex. When it comes to sex, all men want to believe that they are the best partner their mate has ever had, and she is 100% satisfied. To find out that’s not the case can be devastating for some men and cause them to not want to do it at all.
Money is a similar subject. Men want to be the breadwinners in the home. If they’re not, they at least want to feel like they are. As far as bills are concerned, there needs to be a conversation about who’s going to pay for what, so that when the bills come there aren’t any surprises.
Without good communication and honestly, the smallest of problems can turn into huge disputes in the home.
For Cassandra Washington: If you were to take all your topics into consideration and only choose one, what would you say is the biggest misconception men have about women? And why?
The biggest misconception about women is that they are complicated creatures. This is completely false. Every woman, no matter what type of woman she is, from earthy to high-maintenance to mellow, from rich to poor, doesn’t matter, they all want the same thing: some “Act-Right”.
What is “Act-Right” you ask? It’s simple. It’s saying what you mean, meaning what you say and doing what you said you were going to do. Plain and simple. At the end of the day, we want some Act-Right. If you give it to us, you’ll get everything your heart desires and the most peace your existence can enjoy.
Asking for “Act-Right” is not being petty or ridiculous. When you think about it, it’s directly correlated to honesty. If you say you love someone and don’t mean it, that’s a lie. Right? If you say you’re going to call at six that night, but know you probably won’t call until you get back from the club at three the next morning, that’s a lie. And no one wants a liar, right? Right.
For Big Boom: Some women feel they can change a man. In your opinion, can a sucka be reformed? Does your book address that possibility?
Big Boom: No, a woman can not change a man! She might think that he’s a changed man, but the moment you make him mad he will go back to being the same old person. If you let him change himself, he probably would ask God to help him. You will at least end up with a man that is trying.
Can a sucka be reformed? Yes, when he finds out after all this time being a sucka has no value. It’s many ways for a man to change. What I found that works best for me was prayer. I address that in my first book, ” IF YOU WANT CLOSURE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP START WITH YOUR LEGS”.
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Mon 02-16-09 Is sex overrated?
Tue 02-17-09 When should men draw the line in role playing?
Wed 02-18-09 Why do men really cheat?
Thu 02-19-09 Why do I date the same people over and over?
Fri 02-20-09 Why are men challenged by their perineal G-spot?
Sat 02-21-09 Do I tell my friend she’s dating a married man?
Sun 02-22-09 How do I tell my husband I’m sexually frustrated without hurting his feelings?
Mon 02-23-09 Would more racial boundaries break if more people dated interacially?
Tue 02-24-09 How do I cope with not trusting my girfriend after catching her with another woman?
Wed 02-25-09 How do I get my boyfriend of 8 yrs to understand my desire to marry him with losing him?
Thu 02-26-09 How do I cope with my boyfriend sending me mixed messages?
Fri 02-27-09 I fell in love with my best friend’s wife. What should I do?
Sat 02-28-09 Each author gets a special question just for him or her.
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Hi!
I just wanted to say thanks for inviting me to participate in the discussions. I had a blast reading everyone’s answers and comments. May you all have a wonderful weekend and a most blessed year!
Okay, i’m about to go have some pizza for breakfast lol
Peace and blessings!
Cassi
http://www.cassandrawashington.net
Cassandra, it was definitely a pleasure to have your participation on this project. I was inspired to do it one morning. I had the concept, but not the name. I tried to shrug it off, but it wouldn’t get out of my head.
I reached out to my online friends and associates. I asked for questions, and I asked for authors. I already knew I wanted you and Big Boom to get it on it. Dedan Tolbert and Tanya White were suggested by more than one person.
I appreciate the fact that you not only provided answers, but also followed up with the series adding additional insight.
It’s been a labor of love. If you’re a part of my newsletter, it’s been my and my 22 mo-old daughter burning the midnight oil. It’s been a heck of a schedule to keep.
The authors and the comments have been tremendous. I really appreciate that.